How to Stop Worrying and Start Living读后感摘抄
《How to Stop Worrying and Start Living》是一本由Dale Carnegie著作，Pocket Books出版的Mass Market Paperback图书，本书定价：GBP 6.09，页数：358，特精心从网络上整理的一些读者的读后感，希望对大家能有帮助。
《How to Stop Worrying and Start Living》精选点评：
●成年人 正是喝鸡汤的年纪～keep active keep busy
●Chicken soup for sure, but in a good flavor.
●今日借来~~ 苦逼日子需要一些鸡血啊~~
●在薄荷的陪伴下又走过了一百天，和kk一样，赛赛也是一个很温柔的老师。卡耐基的人性论英文名比中文名好听多了，感觉更像是种摆脱烦恼的行动指南。过去一段时间压力很大，在卡耐基的陪伴下，每天都在和自己、和心灵对话，觉得成长了很多，也改变了很多，对很多事看得也更通透。无论什么情况下都要开心，远离烦恼，做一个充满正能量的人，充满爱与善良。
●是真的不喜欢鸡汤，
●我就觉得励志啊成功学啊都是坑爹的货...适合搞传销
●It's very useful and helpful for self-development. An amazing book!
●This fascinatingly inspirational book teaches you how to seize the day, meet head-on with your worries, and conquer them.
●这本书很好的分析了一个人应该以什么样的心态去面对困难，面对生活。帮助我们成长
●虽说是简单的道理，但需要时间和经历去体会。这本书换做5年前，我根本不会想要去看。
《How to Stop Worrying and Start Living》读后感(一)：鸡汤，不值一看。
# how to stop worrying and start living
# 人性的优点
说来也是可笑，看了接近30%之后我才意识到这本书就是大名鼎鼎的卡耐基所著的《人性的优点》。（你有没有觉得这本书的中文译名很奇怪呢？那本《人性的弱点》也是如此）
一直以来，自助书籍在我眼中就是鸡汤。入口甘美，但喝多了会要你命。不过读完这本书，我的负面评价可能更偏向于“技术”层面。书籍某处写到，他在某处居住期间遇到了大量的火急火燎的志愿者。询问后得知这些人在催促大家去接种smallpox（天花）疫苗。他对此的评价是“我没接种疫苗也没死，为什么要让这种忧虑害死我呢”？我读到这一段时，WTF脱口而出。搭了群体免疫的便车还如此自豪，真是无知而无畏。
引用大量名人名言的做法颇像是我们在写高考八股文，而prove by telling stories的论证方法也非常初级。有很多的事例一看就属于选择性论证或者幸存者偏差。为了增加事例的可信性，事例中提到的很多人都附有地址和职务。（这确实是一种需要学习的技巧。给出的细节信息越多，可信性越强。而绝大多数人并不会去fact check，所以编造也是可行的。另外，一种固有的缺陷会让我们在看到CEO总裁这类title时放弃思考，所以诉诸权威也是常见的一种谬误或者误导手段。）书中god出现的频率非常高（不知道当代的书籍是不是会淡化掉这方便的倾向），其他的指导原则也不过是一些common sense。
这本书没办法给一个接受过现代教育的读者带来醍醐灌顶的顿悟时刻。虽然偶有所思所得，但没必要通过这类书来获取这样的时刻。另外，考虑到成书时心理学尚处于初期发展阶段，有些“错误”也在所难免。简单两个字来总结，别看。
.S. 真得有一本叫《chicken soup for the soul》的书。
.P.S. 关于积极心理学，大家有看过值得推荐的书吗？
.P.P.S. 读原版书的一个好处，即便你在吃翔，你也可以安慰自己，至少我在读英文。
《How to Stop Worrying and Start Living》读后感(二)：“理性的漫游者”（非原创）
“脆弱：玻璃杯掉在地上就摔碎了，这叫脆弱，即易受不确定性伤害；
强韧：塑料杯摔到地上毫发无伤，这叫坚强，即能抵抗不确定性，并维持原状；
反脆弱：如果一个杯子摔到地上，能够变成两个杯子，或者杯子变得更大更美，这叫反脆弱，即能从伤害中成长、获利。
因此，在谷底积蓄触底反弹的力量，在充满不确定性的世界剽悍的活着，尤为重要。
要知道，风能吹灭蜡烛，却会让山火越烧越旺。”
“在家办公的时间里，我希望你能好好复盘，过去的几年里，真正制约你快速成长的瓶颈是什么，找到这个破局点，并竭尽全力突破它。
在家等待复工空闲时，找到这个破局点，你就能够跑得更快，跑得更远。”
一定不要盲目成长，滴灌的效率永远高于大水漫灌。
如果你很容易陷入“自我的怪圈”，那就找一个你真正信赖、仰慕、实力强的牛人，请他帮你分析哪里是破局点，如何达到破局点，然后照做。
提出的目标不要过高过大，要跳起来摘果子，而不是摘星星。找到目标和破局点之后，要分解目标，制定可执行、可操作的计划，并坚定执行。
大多数人都是“观光者”，他们遇到“黑天鹅”就会遭受重创，因为往往认为大环境是稳定的，他们的目标和计划僵化且不知变通，因此无法抵抗不确定性。
而“理性的漫游者”则会不断观察，根据外部环境的变化，不断修改自己的目标，并相应提出应对策略，他们在面临不确定性的时候弹性更强，利用危机让自己变得更强。
1）我们是一定能打赢，不要过度悲观，否则你会忽略很多机会。
越是不确定性爆发的时候，机会也就越多，很多行业格局、商业模式都可能会因此洗牌。
3）人的负面情绪无用且廉价，真正有价值的是行动，与其怨天尤人，不如仔细研究如何解决问题。
4）有仗打就打仗，没仗打就备战。
他们出发的太久、工作太忙，以至于忘记了自己的目标是什么，越来越安于现状，越来越不爱思考，导致越来越安分，生活越来越麻木。
这恰恰也解释了，为什么黑天鹅能够促进社会、族群的繁荣和持续进步，因为它能够通过剧烈刺痛的方式，让你从日常生活的麻木中醒悟过来，重新恢复你对生活的感知。
你随便问一个人，给他两个选择：你是愿意结婚生子，带孩子，然后去稳定工作；还是愿意做一个有梦想，有激情，能够向这个世界反抗的人？
所有人都会选择第二种，但是所有人都活成了第一种。
问题并不在于平淡的人生状态不好，而在于你明明日思夜想A，却在庸常的生活里随波逐流、退而求其次，最终只得无奈的选了B。
所以大张伟说，在我的人生概念里，你只有向前，哪里都没法待，因为你不走，后面也会有人推着你走，如果你再不走，后面就会有人来踩 你。
阿里巴巴董事局主席张勇，在湖畔大学授课时曾经说过：「不安分」，是我选拔人才的重要标准。
所谓不安分，就是保持对生活的「第三者视角」，时刻反思当下的生活是否偏离了自己希望的轨道，时刻对保持「还可以更好」的心态，而不是在庸常的生活里随波逐流，成为自己不想成为的样子。
很多人会有一种，我要是一年赚 20W 、50W、100W就好了的小地主心态。
还是那句话，一年赚多少钱并不是问题，问题在于你满足有某个标准，并允许自己堂而皇之的懈怠。
而且求乎中者得乎下，你的目标越低，你的成就可能也就相应越低。
3）人要想不断成长，最难的就是不断突破更高的标准。
解决这个问题最有效的方式就是，不断结识更好的榜样。
很可惜的是，很多人认为所谓的牛人，不是傻逼就是装逼，要么刻意回避，要么刻意贬低，一次会比别人的优秀，和自己的忌妒带来的真实压力。
但你要明白，不断地跟强人碰撞，才是找到目标、快速成长的捷径。
4）独处的时候，思考自己有什么事，比前一天、一月、一年做得更好，哪怕是能够按时写周报这样的小事。
5）你的命运就是一个个选择的叠加，这就是为什么有人说选择永远大于能力。
在已知信息条件下做出最优选择，这是一个长期被忽略的能力。
另外，你永远都能主动做出选择，只不过有些选项被你刻意屏蔽了而已。
越是在别人都悲观的时候，你越应该振奋积极，寻找机会。因为越是大变局的时候，潜藏的机会就越多，你能够做的事情也就越多。
这时候怕的不是没有机会，而是你继续随波逐流、麻木不仁。
最后还是那句话，有仗打就打仗，没仗打就备战。
《How to Stop Worrying and Start Living》读后感(三)：The Power of Appreciation
人们百分之九十五的时间都只想着自己。只要稍微留出一点时间，想想别人的见解，我们身边的每个人都是渴求认同的平凡人。普天之下的每一颗心，都会因他人的赞许而欢愉。
所有力所能及的善行，所有充盈于心的善意，我将毫不吝惜，即刻倾予。我将再不拖延，再不淡漠，只因此生之路，再也无法重来。爱默生曾经说过：“我遇见的每个人都必定在某一方面胜于我。
“能者纵横天下，庸者踽踽独行。”
安德鲁·卡内基曾是个每小时只挣两美分的苏格兰穷小子，而他最终捐赠的财产超过三亿六千五百万美元。他很早就明白，想要影响他人，唯一的方法是以对方的需求为出发点。吵架是吵不出结果的——即使我能够说服他是他错了，为了维护自尊，他也绝不会退让半分。
“如果成功有诀窍的话，”亨利·福特如是说，“这个诀窍就在于洞悉他人的立场，并能够同时兼顾自己和他人的立场。” （谁在乎你们公司“希望”怎样啊？我自己的事儿已经够我烦的了，我早上带着这些烦心事走进办公室，打开邮箱，这儿有个纽约来的傲慢家伙废话连篇地说他们公司想要怎样。我呸！信写成这样，还有脸留在广告界？趁早改行去给羊洗澡吧！）
我们想要把广播行业的最新动态带给客户。
（你们想要！你们想要！你这个自命不凡的家伙。我才不在乎你想要什么，连美国总统想要什么我都不感兴趣。再跟你说最后一次——我只在乎我自己想要的——而在你的信里我没看见任何和我有关系的字眼。）
及时回复确认函，将您的近期动向告知我们，会对双方都有裨益。
（你们是傻瓜吗？在我满脑子都是房贷、蜀葵、高血压的时候，寄给我这么一封格式化的群发信，通篇瞎扯，还胆敢要求我“及时”坐下来写一封确认函？你什么意思啊？我可比你忙多了——就算我有时间，我也乐意装作我很忙！话说回来，谁给你权利对我指手画脚的？最后你终于说了句“都有裨益”。你终于想起我的利益了？那你也没说对我有什么裨益啊！）
“说服别人的首要途径，是引发对方的强烈欲求。能者纵横四海，庸者踽踽独行。”
他都会对自己说：“很感恩有这么多人来看我的表演。我有幸能以爱好谋生，全靠他们捧场。我要把最好的表演献给他们。”
“面带微笑的人在管理、教学和营销上能做出更大成绩，子女也更有幸福感。微笑比蹙眉传递的信息要丰富得多，因而在教学中，鼓励比惩罚有效。”
即使在对方看不到你的情况下，微笑也能够令他深受感染。全美电话公司推出过一个针对电话销售人员的培训项目，叫做“电话力量”。培训师建议，尽管对方看不到你的神情，在打电话的时候也要面带笑容，因为笑容会通过你的声音传递出去。 人们只有真心热爱自己在做的事，才有可能取得成功。这位业界领袖并不相信“努力工作就能打开理想之门”这句老话。“我周围有许多人在创业的时候风生水起，乐在其中，”他说，“但当创业的乐趣逐渐被繁琐工作代替时，他们的心态就变了，生意也因此失去了昔日的风光。一旦工作不再愉快，事业注定会失败。”
从那之后，我每天早晨都笑着向她问好。这两个月，家里充满了欢声笑语，再不像去年那样愁云密布。
上班路上，我主动对电梯操作员和门房道早安；在地铁售票口等找零的时候，我向收银员微笑致意；走进证券交易所大门，我面带笑容地跟同事们打招呼——在此之前，他们大概从未见我笑过。
我很快发现每个人都会对我报以友善的微笑。如果有人牢骚满腹地来找我倾诉，我也会用积极的方式应对，微笑着倾听他们的抱怨。如此一来，事情往往比以前更容易解决。我发现微笑甚至为我带来了额外的收入。
我改掉了批评的习惯，以赞许代替抱怨。我也不再一天到晚把我要怎样挂在嘴边，而是试着从别人的视角看待问题。这些改变真的颠覆了我的生活。现在的我好似变成了完全不同的人，更幸福，内心也更富足，还收获了友谊和快乐——人生中真正重要的两件事。
“想要找回丢失的快乐，就请愉快地坐直身体，愉快地谈天或是做事，感觉快乐已经回到了你的身边。这是通向快乐的最佳途径……”
世人都在寻找幸福，幸福之路也的确存在。学会控制自己的想法，就能够得到幸福。幸福并非取决于外在条件，而是取决于心理状态。
决定快乐与否的并不是你是谁、你在哪里或是你在做什么，而是你看待问题的方式。假使两个金钱地位相当的人，在同一地点做同一件事，也极有可能一个开心，一个痛苦。为什么？因为二者模式不同。在热带的烈日下用落后工具辛勤耕作的农民，与身处纽约、芝加哥或洛杉矶的空调房里工作的白领，幸福感其实相差无几。
过了几周，她对自己说：“玛利亚，你不能总是等着别人来找你。你得主动走出去。”于是下一次她经过走廊去茶水间的时候，她以最明媚的微笑和每个同事打招呼，说：“嗨，今天过得怎么样？”效果立竿见影。人人都对她报以微笑，走廊似乎一下子明亮起来，氛围也更加友善了。渐渐和大家熟悉之后，她和好几位同事成了朋友，生活和工作都因此变得愉快有趣。 走出家门的时候，请收紧下颔，高昂起头，让空气充满肺腑，让阳光沐浴身心。向朋友问好时记得微笑，握手的时候请真心诚意。不要害怕误解，也不要在敌人身上浪费一分一秒。
请在脑海中牢牢记住你的心愿，径直向目的地前进。专注于你的伟大航程，你就会发现在日升月落之间，你已经不知不觉地抓住了每一次接近目标的机会，如同小小的珊瑚虫从澎湃海浪中汲取它需要的养分。请在脑海中仔细勾勒理想的形象，笃定的想法将帮助你一步步成长为那个美好真诚、才华横溢的自己。思想是至高无上的。请端正心态，学会无畏、坦率、乐观，因为正确的思维是创造一切的前提。心想是事成之因，虔诚的祷告者必将得到回应。倘若你心意坚定，你就不会迷失方向。收紧下颔，高昂起头——你将成为自己的神。
《How to Stop Worrying and Start Living》读后感(四)：How to Stop Worrying and Start Living
FUNDAMENTAL FACTS YOU SHOULD KNOW ABOUT WORRY
RULE 1: if you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in "day-tight compartments". don't stew about the future. just live each day until bedtime.
RULE 2: the next time Trouble--with a capital T--comes gunning for you and backs you up in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
a. ask yourself, "what is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem？"
. prepare urself mentally to accept the worst--if necessary.
c. then calmly try to improve upon the worst--which you have already mentally agreed to accept.
RULE 3: remind urself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your health. "business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."
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ASIC TECHNIQUES IN ANALYZING WORRY
RULE 1: Get the facts. remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "half the worry in the world is caused by ppl trying to make decisions be4 they have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."
RULE 2: after carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
RULE 3: once a decision is carefully reached, act! get busy carrying out ur decision--and dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
RULE 4: when u, or any of ur associaties are tempted to worry about a problem, write out and answer the following questions:
a. what is the problem？
. what is the cause of the problem？
c. what are all possible solutions？
d. what is the best solution？
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HOW TO BREAK THE WORRY HABBIT BE4 IT BREAKS U
RULE 1: crowd worry out of ur mind by keeping busy. plenty of action is one of the best therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers".
RULE 2: don't fuss about trifles. don't permit little things--the mere termites of life--to ruin ur happiness.
RULE 3: use the law of averages to outlaw ur worries. ask urself:" what are the odds against this thing's happening at all？"
RULE 4: co-operate with the inevitable. if you know a circumstance is beyond ur power to change or revise, say to urself "it is so; t cannot be otherwise."
RULE 5: put a "stop-loss" order on ur worries. decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worthand refuse to give it any more.
RULE 6: let the past bury its dead. don't saw sawdust.
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EVEN WAYS TO CULTIVATE A MENTAL ATTITUDE THAT WILL BRING U PEACE AND HAPPINESS
RULE 1: let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courages, health, and hope, for "our life is what out thoughts make it".
RULE 2: let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt ourselves far more than we hurt them. let's do as General Eisenhower does: let's never waste a minute thinking about ppl we dont like.
RULE 3:
A. instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. let's remember the Jesus healed ten leper in one day--and only one thanked Him. why should we expect more gratitude than Jesus got？
. let's remember that the only way to find happiness is not expect gratitude--but to give for the joy of giving.
C. lets remember the gratitude is a "cultivated" trait; so if we want our children to be grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
RULE 4: count ur blessings--not ur troubles!
RULE 5: lets not imitate others. lets find ourselves and be ourselves, for "envy is ignorance" and "imitation is suicise".
RULE 6: when fate hands us a lemon, lets try to make a lemonade.
RULE 7: lets forget our own unhappiness--by trying to create a little happiness for others. 'when you are good to others, u r best to urself.'
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HOW TO KEEP FROM WORRYING ABOUT CRITICISM
RULE 1: unjust criticism is often a disgusting compliment. it often means that you have aroused jealousy and ency. remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
RULE 2: do the very best u can; and then put up ur old umbrella and keep the rain of criticism from running down the back of ur neck.
RULE 3: lets keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticise ourselves. since we cant hope to be perfect, lets do what E.H.Little did: lets ask for unbiased, helpful, constructive criticism.
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IX WAYS TO PREVENT FATIGUE AND WORRY AND KEEP UR ENERGY AND SPIRITS HIGH
RULE 1: rest before u get tired.
RULE 2: learn to relax at ur work.
RULE 3: if u r a housewife, protect ur health and appearance by relaxing at home.
RULE 4: apply these four good working habits
a. clear ur desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at hand.
. do thind in the order of their importance.
c. when u face a problem, solve it then and there if u have the facts necessary to make a decision.
d. learn to organise, deputise, and supervise.
RULE 5: to prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into ur work.
RULE 6: remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. it is worrying about insomnia that does the damage--not the insomnia.
《How to Stop Worrying and Start Living》读后感(五)：要相信，一切都会好起来
读这本书是自己上一年最焦虑的时候，当时，现实把之前自己不切实际的外贸发财梦破灭，在一间外贸工厂工作了一个月，果断辞职，待业在家，每天不是在找工作，就是在找工作的路上，身心疲倦，每天都生活在焦虑，彷徨，迷茫和对未来的恐惧当中，特别是爸妈无言的压力，和周围有同学开始拿到各种offer的氛围，更是让自己苦不堪言，怎么都淡定不起来。
之后，在读着卡内基大叔这本书的同时，自己一直努力着，思考着，慢慢也熬过了这段艰难的日子。之后，不知道是运气，还是努力有了回报，跑了无数个面试之后，在年末拿到了最喜欢的offer，现在入职一个多月，一切感觉良好，现在觉得当初的焦虑，当时所谓的困难根本不是困难，所有的患得患失，犹豫，焦虑，是你成长道路上一定要克服的障碍，焦虑和恐惧都不可怕，重要的是，你依然要果断去行动。
这本书当时是给自己打鸡血用的。里面很多技巧很有用，里面很多名人名句，事例，都在不断加深我把这本书当成鸡血书的定位。
说此书是鸡血书并无贬义的意思，当你焦虑，犹豫，彷徨的时候，我敢说，那些小技巧都是没有太大实际意义的，特别是，当你和我一样，本来就是一个理性主义者的时候。
面临一个抉择，面临一个大的困难，遇到一个你感觉不是马上能解决的重大问题，你生活在压力，焦虑当中的时候，所有的理性分析，技巧，对当时的你来说，都只是鸡肋罢了。即管你已经很明白，一切都只不过是时间问题，只要努力，只要主动，只要再耐心一些，问题会迎刃而解的。
那时候你最需要的，不是书上的技巧，不是理性分析（假定你本来就不是个笨蛋），是能令你，带着焦虑的心的同时，仍有动力行动起来的决心。
一切能令你真正在焦虑的同时行动起来的东西都是好东西。而那时候，往往不是书本，是你最亲近，不会伤害你。你可以向他抱怨，发牢骚，听你说着漫无边际的说话的好朋友，是会一直给予你支持的爱人，是想尽办法不想给你压力的家人，最后，是所有能给你打鸡血的文章，实例，经验，名人名言！！统称，鸡血文！
这本书不能给你一个好兄弟，好姐妹，好爱人，好家人，但是能提供最后一样东西，大量的鸡血，和辅助鸡血的技巧。
一切的目的，就是让你行动起来。
你一定要相信，在你最黑暗，最焦虑的时候，只要带着书上提到的一些分析技巧，秉着理性，务实的作风，行动起来，一切都会好起来的。
卡内基大叔最后是这么说：
We already know enough to lead perfect lives. We have all read the golden rule and the Sermon on the Mount. Our trouble is not ignorance, but inaction.
我们知道的已经足够让我们过上幸福美满的生活了。你已经读过了无数的黄金法则，大师智慧，我们的问题不在于无知，而是不作为。
而这本书，就是给你大量的鸡血，实例，最终，让你行动起来！
在你明白了，自己是在looking for action的时候，此时是你读这本书最佳之时。
o, this is an action book.Let's turn the pages
A great journey is about to begin.
Good Luck:)
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art One - Fundamental Facts You Should Know About Worry
1． RULE 1:
If you want to avoid worry, do what Sir William Osier did: Live in "day-tight
compartments". Don't stew about the future. Just live each day until bedtime.
RULE 2: The next time Trouble-with a capital T- comes gunning for you and backs you up
in a corner, try the magic formula of Willis H. Carrier:
a. Ask yourself, "What is the worst that can possibly happen if I can't solve my problem？"
. Prepare yourself mentally to accept the worst-if necessary.
c. Then calmly try to improve upon the worst-which you have already mentally • agreed
to accept.
RULE 3: Remind yourself of the exorbitant price you can pay for worry in terms of your
health. "Business men who do not know how to fight worry die young."
2．the best possible way to
repare for tomorrow is to concentrate with all your intelligence, all your enthusiasm,
on doing today's work superbly today. That is the only possible way you can prepare for
the future. By all means take thought for the tomorrow, yes, careful thought and planning and
reparation. But have no anxiety.
3．When the cruel Chinese war lords wanted to torture their prisoners, they would tie their
risoners hand and foot and put them under a bag of water that constantly dripped ...
dripped ... dripped ... day and night. These drops of water constantly falling on the
head finally became like the sound of hammer blows-and drove men insane
art Two - Basic Techniques In Analysing Worry
RULE 1: Get the facts. Remember that Dean Hawkes of Columbia University said that "
half the worry in the world is caused by people trying to make decisions before they
have sufficient knowledge on which to base a decision."
RULE 2: After carefully weighing all the facts, come to a decision.
RULE 3: Once a decision is carefully reached, act! Get busy carrying out your decisionand
dismiss all anxiety about the outcome.
RULE 4: When you, or any of your associates are tempted to worry about a problem,
write out and answer the following questions:
a. What is the problem？
. What is the cause of the problem？
c. What are all possible solutions？
d. What is the best solution？
In A Nutshell
1. Develop a deep, driving desire to master the principles of conquering worry.
2. Read each chapter twice before going on to the next one.
3. As you read, stop frequently to ask yourself how you can apply each suggestion.
4. Underscore each important idea.
5. Review this book each month.
6. Apply these principles at every opportunity. Use this volume as a working handbook
to help you solve your daily problems.
7. Make a lively game put of your learning by offering some friend a shilling every time
he catches you violating one of these principles.
8. Check up each week on the progress you are making. Ask yourself what mistakes you
have made, what improvement, what lessons you have learned for the future.
9. Keep a diary in the back of this book showing how and when you have applied these
rinciples.
art Three - How To Break The Worry Habit Before It Breaks You
RULE 1: Crowd worry out of your mind by keeping busy. Plenty of action is one of the
est therapies ever devised for curing "wibber gibbers".
RULE 2: Don't fuss about trifles. Don't permit little things-the mere termites of life-to
ruin your happiness. Remember "Life is too short to be little.".
RULE 3: Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: "What are the
odds against this thing's happening at all？"
RULE 4: Co-operate with the inevitable. If you know a circumstance is beyond your
ower to change or revise, say to yourself "It is so; it cannot be otherwise."
RULE 5: Put a "stop-loss" order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing
may be worth-and refuse to give it any more.
RULE 6: Let the past bury its dead. Don't saw sawdust
为了今天
Just For Today
1. Just for today I will be happy. This assumes that what Abraham Lincoln said is true,
that "most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be." Happiness is
from within; it is not a matter of externals.
2. Just for today I will try to adjust myself to what is, and not try to adjust everything
to my own desires. I will take my family, my business, and my luck as they come and fit
myself to them.
3. Just for today I will take care of my body. I will exercise it, care for it, nourish it, not
abuse it nor neglect it, so that it will be a perfect machine for my bidding.
4. Just for today I will try to strengthen my mind. I will learn something useful. I will
ot be a mental loafer. I will read something that requires effort, thought and
concentration.
5. Just for today I will exercise my soul in three ways: I will do somebody a good turn
and not get found out. I will do at least two things I don't want to do, as William James
uggests, just for exercise.
6. Just for today I will be agreeable. I will look as well as I can, dress as becomingly as
ossible, talk low, act courteously, be liberal with praise, criticise not at all, nor find
fault with anything and not try to regulate nor improve anyone.
7. Just for today I will try to live through this day only, not to tackle my whole life
roblem at once. I can do things for twelve hours that would appall me if I had to keep
them up for a lifetime.
8. Just for today I will have a programme. I will write down what I expect to do every
hour. I may not follow it exactly, but I will have it. It will eliminate two pests, hurry and
indecision.
9. Just for today I will have a quiet half-hour all by myself and relax. In this half-hour
ometimes I will think of God, so as to get a little more perspective into my life.
10. Just for today I will be unafraid, especially I will not be afraid to be happy, to enjoy
what is beautiful, to love, and to believe that those I love, love me.
art Four - Seven Ways To Cultivate A Mental Attitude That Will Bring You Peace And
Happiness
RULE 1: Let's fill our minds with thoughts of peace, courage, health, and hope, for ' 'our
life is what our thoughts make it".
RULE 2: Let's never try to get even with our enemies, because if we do we will hurt
ourselves far more than we hurt them. Let's do as General Eisenhower does: let's never
waste a minute thinking about people we don't like.
RULE 3:
A. Instead of worrying about ingratitude, let's expect it. Let's remember that
Jesus healed ten lepers in one day-and only one thanked Him. Why should we expect
more gratitude than Jesus got？
. Let's remember that the only way to find happiness is not to expect gratitude-but to
give for the joy of giving.
C. Let's remember that gratitude is a "cultivated" trait; so if we want our children to be
grateful, we must train them to be grateful.
RULE 4: Count your blessings-not your troubles!
RULE 5: Let's not imitate others. Let's find ourselves and be ourselves, for "envy is
ignorance" and "imitation is suicide".
RULE 6: When fate hands us a lemon, let's try to make a lemonade.
RULE 7: Let's forget our own unhappiness-by trying to create a little happiness for
others. "When you are good to others, you are best to yourself."
art Five - The Golden Rule For Conquering Worry
art Six - How To Keep From Worrying About Criticism
RULE 1: Unjust criticism is often a disguised compliment. It often means that you have
aroused jealousy and envy. Remember that no one ever kicks a dead dog.
RULE 2: Do the very best you can; and then put up your old umbrella and keep the rain
of criticism from running down the back of your neck.
RULE 3: Let's keep a record of the fool things we have done and criticise ourselves.
ince we can't hope to be perfect, let's do what E. H. Little did: let's ask for unbiased,
helpful, constructive criticism.
art Seven - Six Ways To Prevent Fatigue And Worry And Keep Your Energy And Spirits
High
RULE 1: Rest before you get tired. RULE 2: Learn to relax at your work.
RULE 3: If you are a housewife, protect your health and appearance by relaxing at home
RULE 4: Apply these four good working habits
a. Clear your desk of all papers except those relating to the immediate problem at
hand.
. Do things in the order of their importance.
c. When you face a problem, solve it then and there if you have the facts necessary to
make a decision.
d. Learn to organise, deputise, and supervise.
RULE 5: To prevent worry and fatigue, put enthusiasm into your work.
RULE 6: Remember, no one was ever killed by lack of sleep. It is worrying about
insomnia that does the damage-not the insomnia