未经他人苦，莫劝他人善

　　未经他人苦，莫劝他人善

　　在一次次当自己的伤疤裸露在世人面前时，除了忍着并习惯着露出违心的笑容之外，她什么也做不了。没什么好难受的，更没什么可觉得抬不起头。别人就是在给你难堪，别人在施舍给她，她没有任何的反抗权利，谁让她没有能力，需要求人呢？活着都是困难了，尊严又算什么，经常体验着上顿不接下顿的生活的人有什么资格在别人面前讲尊严。只要能够得到温饱，什么都可以放弃，尊严根本就不值钱。没有钱哪来的脸面，必须不要皮不要脸，才能让自己活下去的话，那要脸面干什么，怎么说它也不能给她饭吃呀！再美丽的衣服，再漂亮的鞋子包包都及不上自己的温饱来得重要。在最爱的人面前，她都卑微到尘埃里了，在其他任何人面前又有什么清高的。这个世界就是现实，别人可以吃自己想吃的，玩自己想玩的，去自己想去的地方。这些对于她而言都遥不可及，她的世界里每天的一顿温饱，寒冷冬天的一件暖衣都需要努力才得到。

　　Do not try to persuade others to be kind without suffering them. Time after time， when her scars were exposed to the world， she could do nothing but endure and get used to smiling against her heart. There’s nothing to feel bad about. There’s nothing to feel bad about. Others is to give you embarrassment, others in charity to her, she has no right to resist, who let her not ability, need to ask for people？ It is difficult to live, what is dignity, often experiencing the next meal do not have the right to talk about dignity in front of others. As long as you can get enough to eat, you can give up anything. Dignity is worthless. There is no money where the face, must not shameless, in order to allow themselves to live, then what face to do, how it can not give her food！ No matter how beautiful clothes, no matter how beautiful shoes and bags are not as important as your own food and clothing. In front of the most loved people, she is humble to the dust, in front of anyone else and what lofty. This world is the reality, others can eat what they want to eat, play what they want to play, go where they want to go. All this seemed out of reach to her, a daily meal in her world, a warm coat in the cold of winter.