哈佛商学院: 人生成功的三个关键因素KSF

人生成功的三个关键因素KSF 

（哈佛商学院）

我们都希望生活不断向前进步，没有人喜欢生活停滞不前，甚至是后退。但我们该怎么做呢？怎么能保证我们的生活是不断向前进步呢？同样重要的问题是如何确保我们的生活正在朝着正确的方向向前进步？生活中有很多可供选择的道路，有一些选择会给我们带来祝福、平安和喜乐，有很多选择则相反。到底哪一条才是我们真正想要的道路？现在我们正行走在哪条道路上呢？

这些问题不仅对我们个人很重要，对我们的家庭和最亲密的朋友亦是如此。如果我自己取得很大的进步，那么帮助我的配偶和孩子取得进步也会更容易。同样的，对我们的亲密朋友也是如此。

当然，生活是不容易的，生活中并不总是“进步、进步、再进步”。我们都会有失误、犯错，有时甚至会倒退。但是，我们怎样才能确保我们的生活是不断向前进步呢？我们怎样才能确保我们使用好每一天、每星期、每个月成为我们希望成为的人呢？这不仅仅是为我们自己的益处，也是为我们的家人和朋友的益处。

这是一个复杂到可以写一整本书来探讨的问题。在此，让我与你分享三个关键的成功因素(在哈佛商学院我们称之为KSF——Key Success Factors），在你如此重要的努力中，我希望并为此祷告借此能给你带来帮助。今天我会分享第一个成功的因素: 认清你的目标；在我的下一篇文章中我将分享第二个成功的因素: 设立并计划你的人生目标；之后，我将分享第三个成功的因素: 坚持执行你的计划。这些听起来很简单, 但我向你保证这绝非易事。积极的生活变化需要时间和决心，还要加上计划和执行，如果我们开始做，这三个KSF可以使一切变得不同。

今天我会关注在第一个KSF：

你想成为什么样的人呢？英文中我们通常会说：“你想要在你的墓碑上留下什么碑文呢？”当你离世后，你想让你的家人记得关于你的哪些事呢？你的一生中真正想完成的是什么？在这个世界上对你更重要的是什么？这些都是不容易回答的问题，但你必须清晰和诚实的回答这些问题。因为我们的生活中都需要可靠和正确的长期目标。没有它们，我们的生活只能在原地打转，就像一个没有地图指引的探索者，一定会迷路。

a.  你需要思考3个方面的目标：

1、职业目标

你一生要从事的工作是什么？在你的工作中你想要达成什么？你想要赚多少钱？等等…

2、个人目标

你想要成为什么样的男人或女人？在你的生活中你想要掌握什么技能？(例:对我来说: 在我死之前我真希望的能够学会说中文) 

3、人际关系目标

你想让你的家人记住你什么？你想让你的朋友和同事认为你是什么样的人？当你离世后，你希望你的家人记得关于你的哪些事？你的朋友和同事怎么评价你？你想让你的家庭带来什么样的影响？

你需要认真思考这些问题…,真正做到对自己诚实。如果你愿意随时添加别人。但无论如何,它是最好的如果你写下你的答案,因为文字的力量。把它们写下 来,然后一起分享你的配偶或最好的朋友。要求输入他/她的诚实。并确保这些是真正为你的生活你的目标。不是你的父母为你的目标。不是你的公司为你的目标。但是你的目标你…和你的家人。

b.  你需要认认真真思考这些问题，真正做到对自己诚实。

如果愿意你随时可以询问身边的人。但无论如何，最好的就是将你的答案写下来，因为文字有强大的力量。把它们写下来，然后与你的配偶或最好的朋友一起分享，请求他/她诚实的与你交流。并确保这些是你真正想要的生活目标，不是你父母为你设立的目标，不是你的公司为你设立的目标，是你自己的目标，也是你家庭的目标。

c.  在我的《成就好爸爸》一书中，我用了一章的篇幅来帮助读者为自己和家人建立崇高的家庭愿景，这对我们每一个人都是如此的重要。(哲理故事大全 www.wenzhangba.com)

如果你想了解更多,你可以在此购买本书的中文版（在京东、当当、亚马逊均有售）。我们会将本书100%的收益捐赠给家庭慈善机构，我们希望这能成为一个双重的祝福! !

本周请花些时间认真考虑上述问题。毕竟这是你的生活，你需要明确生活中哪些是重要的，哪些不是。但请小心千万不要落入陷阱：“一切都是重要的，我想成为一个百万富翁, 拥有一个美好的家庭, 周游世界, 说14种语言…”。我的朋友,生活并不是一个幻想游戏，我们必须做出选择。当你确定了什么对你是最重要的, 你可以将某些事情搁置一旁。这是必要的，没有人可以拥有一切，没有一个人可以。

下周的文章中我们会继续探讨KSF的重要性。如果你有任何问题或意见，请务必通过微信平台联系我们，我们期待收到你的反馈。下周我期待与你一同探讨KSF # 2: 设立并计划你的人生目标。

努力向前！！！Gregory

All of us want to move forward in life. No one likes the feeling of standing still…or even going backwards…in their life. But how do we do that? How can we insure that we are going forward in life? And just as importantly how can we ensure that we are going forward in the right direction? There are many potential paths in life. Some lead to blessings, peace and joy. Many do not. Which path do we really want to be on? And which path are we on now?

These questions are important not just for us but for our family and closest friends as well. If I am making progress as a human being, I make it easier for my spouse and children to make progress too. The same is true for our close friends.

Of course life is not easy. And it is certainly not always ‘up, up and up.”We all have stumbles, make mistakes and go backwards at times. But again, how can we ensure that overall we are going forward in life? How can we be sure that we are using each day, each week, each month to become the person we hope to be, not just for ourselves but for our family and friends as well?

This is a complex question and one could easily write a whole book on it. But let me share with you three Key Success Factors(or KSF’s as we called them at Harvard Business School) that I hope and pray will help you in this crucial endeavor. I will share the first one today: KNOW YOUR GOALS. I will share the second KSF in my next Post: ESTABLISH A LIFE PLAN TO REACH YOUR GOALS. And I will share the third KSF in my Blog Post right after that: EXECUTE YOUR PLAN…EVEN WHEN YOU GET KNOCKED DOWN.  These may sound simple, but I promise you they are not. Positive life change takes time and determination…plus planning and execution. These three KSF’s can make all the difference…if we do them.

Here’s the first KSF and the one I want to focus on today:

1.  Know your Goals. What kind of person do you want to be known as? As we say in English “What do you want written on your tombstone?”  What do you want your family to remember about you when you are gone. What do you really want to accomplish in this life? What is more important to you in this world? Those are not easy questions…but you need to answer them clearly and truthfully. Because we all need honest and accurate long-term goals in our lives. With out them, we will for sure end up going around in circles in our life, just like an explorer without a map is sure to get lost.

a.  You might want to think about three sets of goals:

i.    Professional Goals: What is your life’s work? What do you want to accomplish in your work? How much you want to earn? Etc…

ii.    Personal Goals: What type of man or woman do you want to be? What personal skills might you want to master in your life (ex: for me: I’d like to really be able to speak Chinese before I die)

iii.    Interpersonal Goals: How do you want your family to remember you? How do you want friends and associates to think of you? How do you want your family to function both now…and when you are gone?b.  You will need to think hard about these questions…and be truly honest with yourself. Feel free to add others if you wish. But no matter what, it is best if you write down your answers, because the written word has power. Write them down and then share them with your spouse or best friend. Ask for his/her honest input. And be sure that these are truly your goals for your life.Not your parents’ goals for you. Not your company’s goals for you. But your goals for you…and for your family.c.  In my book “Be A Better Dad Today” I devote an entire chapter to helping my readers establish a Noble Family Vision for themselves and their family. This is so important for all of us. If you’d like to see more, you can get the book here (jd.com or amazon.cn). Since we give 100% of the proceeds from the book to fatherhood and family charities…we hope it will be a double blessing!!

Please take time this week to really think about the questions above. Feel free to add others. After all it is your life…YOU need to be the one who defines what is important and what is not. But please do not fall into the trap of saying “Everything is important: I want to be a million aire, have a great family, travel the world, speak 14 languages and ….”  My friend, life is not a fantasy game. We all must make choices.  When you decide what is MOST important to you, by definition you are putting other things to the side. And that is necessary. For none of us can have it all. No one.

Let’s get back together next week and let’s compare notes on this important KSF. As always, if you have questions or comments please be sure to share them on our WeChat page. We look forward to hearing from you…and exploring KSF #2 with you next artilce: ESTABLISH A LIFE PLAN TO REACH YOUR GOALS.

Onward and Upward!!!GregoryPs: please take a moment to share this post with 5 friends who might be encouraged and blessed by it. Thank you!!!

翻译：Grace

家庭第一

我们相信每个人都具有无限的价值

家里是发挥这些价值最好的地方

我们相信虽然没有一个家庭是完美无瑕的

却仍然能在失败和软弱中抱有恢复和重建的希望

我们相信每一个家庭可以

更幸福

更坚固

更和睦

还没有关注我们的朋友

请长按下面的二维码识别关注