妈妈，陪我躺一会好吗？
作者：Becky
来源：yourmo.com
翻译：家长大学
“妈妈，陪我躺一会好吗？”
每天晚上你家孩子是不是也会提出这个要求，希望你陪他躺一会？可为什么孩子总说这句话呢？
其实原因很简单：他就是喜欢和你在一起。我家孩子每晚都会这样，因此我记住了那句“躺一会”。
I have a new favorite phrase from our kids…Mommy will you lay with me…why? Let me tell you. Do you hear this every night, as I do? Our ch want me to lie down with them every night. This question is always on their minds, because they love to spend time with you.
Ps- Yes, “Lie down” is the correct term, but our son has always said “lay with me”… so that is how him.Thanks!☉▽☉
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几年前，朋友家的孩子在睡梦中离开了大家。大约一个礼拜后，另一个小镇上的一名7岁男孩在外出玩耍时意外离世。
这些消息我不敢轻易触碰，甚至不愿提起。因为我的孩子也在相仿的年纪（我有四个孩子，分别出生于06年、08年、10年和12年）。
Several years ago, a friend of the family’s son passed away, while he was sleeping. A week later, another seven year old boy passed away, only one town away, unexpectedly, while he was outside playing. This is hard for me to think about, talk about an about. We have kids close in age to these boys. (We have four kids: born in ’06, ’08, ’10 and ’12)
你能想象每晚当我给一个孩子盖好被子，当他仰起小脸对我说“妈妈，陪我躺一会好吗？”时，我都是怎么回答的么？
我说：“等一会儿宝贝，妈妈先给其他孩子盖被子”，“厨房还有东西没洗”，“我还有些工作没做完”，“我和你爸得吃饭，我们还饿着呢”……
其实不管是什么理由，我都在表达同一个意思：“你等会儿，妈妈先做其他事。”是不是有点扎心…
Do you know what one of our kids asks me every single night as I am tucking him in…“Mommy, will you lay with me?” I am sad now th that most nights my answer is this: “Just for a second, sweetie. I have to make sure that your sister an are all tucked in. I have to clean up the k. I have to work on my notes for work. Daddy and I are going to eat , since we didn’t get to eat as early as you tonight….” whatever the reason, they all say the same thing to him: “Just for a second. Other things are coming first.”
我明白你在想什么。你想一旦躺了5分钟，孩子就会要20分钟，40分钟，然后会得寸进尺让你整晚都陪着他，你当然不能这么做。
I know, I know… as parents, we can’t lie there all night. He woul this, as would all of our kids.“You give an inch, they take a mile”. We think we will lie down for 5 m, they want 20. We give 20, they want 40.
但是你知道吗？“躺一会”，其实很奇妙。“躺一会”让我发现了大部分孩子不会和妈妈说的话。
But… Do you know what? This is when the goo comes out. This is when I hear all of those that almost-teens don’t tell their moms anymore.
“那谁说我可爱，真烦人，你说呢，妈？”
“So & So told me that I was cute today. How . Right, Mom?”
“今天我们数学测验，你猜怎么着？我考得还不错……其实考试时我注意力就没集中，光看他们在楼道里布置演出台了，我以为会考不好呢。对了，我跟你说演出的事了么?”
“Today we had a math test and I got them all right…I was really though an miss one, because out in the hallway, the kids were setting up for the play. Did I tell you about the play?”
“我想咱家的狗了。狗都会死于癌症么？我们什么时候再养一只？”
“I miss our dog. Do all dogs die of cancer? When do you think we can get another one?”
“妈，记得你跟我说过摔跤课时要帮助弟弟吧？我今天就是，我给他们加油，一块跑步。就按你和爸爸说的方法在旁边陪着跑，我觉得他们还挺高兴的。”
“B说他跑步时胃疼，我就跟他说‘你跑慢点，我陪你一块慢慢跑’。但是说实话，慢慢跑实在太没劲了。”
“Mom, you know how you told me that wrestling practice try to help both brothers uplifted? Cheer them on and run with them? Today I did. I ran right beside them, just like you and Dad told me. it made them feel better. B said that his stomach hurt from running and I told him that if he wanted to slow down, slow down with him, even though running that slow is REALLY boring, Mom!”
当我把那些“必须做”和“要做”的事情统统放到一边，陪孩子“躺一会”，就有了上面这些可爱的对话。
These are the things that happen when we put aside everything else.These are things that happen when we forget about whatever else we have to do or want to do.
“我的祖母曾说过，在拥有孩子的时候就享受和孩子一起的时光。不愿花时间陪孩子，那为什么要生孩子呢？她深深地热爱养育的过程，她相信我也是这样的母亲。”
My grandma used to tell me to enjoy our kids when we had them.She would say that she didn’t know why people would have kids if they didn’t get to spend time with them.She said that she love her kids and that she knew be the same way.
我们的父母有时会说：“等着吧，有一天，孩子才不想让你们陪呢”。听他们这样说时，我心里会暗暗地难过，但是幸好，那一天，不是今天！
My parents and my husband’s parents remind us that one day, they won’t want to spend so much time with us. It breaks my heart to think of this, but you know what? …That day IS NOT TODAY.
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今天，如果孩子问我，我会毫不犹豫地陪他“躺一会”，四个孩子每个都“躺一会”。我会给他们唱最爱的儿歌。
也许这可能让全家晚睡十分钟，也许会让我的耐心接近底线，或者身心疲惫到几近崩溃，但这将是我最最幸运和宝贵的十分钟，因为我和孩子们在一起。这十分钟的倾听和闲聊，在向孩子传递一句无声的话语：“现在，此刻，你是最重要的！”
TODAY,I will lie down with him when he asks me to, and with all four of our ch. I will sing Toora Loora Loora and Que Sera Sera (their favorite songs).
And do you know what?
If it adds ten m onto the end of our night, when our patience is low and our exhaustion is high, that is ten more m that I was lucky enough to have spent with our ch…. l, encouraging, telling them the unspoken words that say: TODAY, RIGHT NOW, YOU ARE THE MOST THING TO ME.
相信在十年后的某天，当他长大成人，准备开始自己的新生活时，如果我请他停下来陪我“坐一会”，他会像今天的我一样毫不犹豫。
In ten years, those unspoken words will come back to me when he is a grown boy, getting ready to head off to start his own life and I ask him to stop what he is doing and sit with ME for a moment… and he does.
人生短短数十载，而我们真正能陪伴孩子的只有那么几年。充分享受这几年，享受陪孩子长大的每一天吧。
We only have a few years to really be present in their lives. Let’s spen years wisely.
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