《Sons and Lovers》读后感精选10篇
《Sons and Lovers》是一本由D. H. Lawrence著作，Wordsworth Editions Ltd出版的Paperback图书，本书定价：GBP 1.99，页数：400，文章吧小编精心整理的一些读者的读后感，希望对大家能有帮助。
《Sons and Lovers》读后感(一)：故事太平淡进展缓慢，读了一半快要读不下去了。。。有剧透
利用坐公交等公交坐地铁等地铁等电梯的时间断断续续地读完一半这本书，讲真。
要不是我做事喜欢有始有终，在学文学选读的时候就已经被剧透过了的我真心没兴趣再读下去。。。
这本书开头讲剧中父母从相识到结婚的过程，结婚后对婚姻生活美好向往的破灭导致夫妻感情不和。母亲生了大儿子，然而大儿子成年后莫名其妙的得了肺炎还是什么病的就英年早逝了，家里孩子只剩主人公Paul和他的弟弟（被骗去参军了）妹妹（一直没什么存在感）。全家人都因为母亲的关系有点瞧不起他们爹的赶脚。
中间这部分，也就是大约八，九，十这几部分，同时也是我现在开始想弃书的部分，Paul这个渣男一边嘴上说自己不爱M姓女主角一号（据剧透，后面还会有女主角二号，女主角三号blahblah）一边每天强行撩妹。。。
从上文的故事梗概中能看出，这本书和Joyce的dubliners还有Faulkner的a rose for emily比起来，s&l 的故事性就显得比较白开水了，比较适合拍成国内的那种四五十集的家庭婆媳剧。唯一能拿的出手吹捧的也许就是这几个被说烂了的梗：Freud的恋母情结理论啦，一直被母亲玩弄于鼓掌之中以至于离开母亲生活就不能自理的儿子在母亲去世后不得不重新做人。
所以个人认为S&L这种白开水的小说更适合那些喜欢看有内涵的深层次的学术研究性探讨人类精神层面的阅读的人，而不是我这种喜欢寻求刺激，流于表面爱戏剧性表现手法的人╮(╯▽╰)╭。
另外，求问，你们看小说的时候，对于这种下层人民语言都是怎么读懂的= =，
《Sons and Lovers》读后感(二)：reading report: A mother's love
it hurt the boy keenly,this feeling about her that she had never had her life's fulfillment ,and his own incapability to make up to her hurt him with a sense of impotence,yet made him patiently dogged inside.it was his childish dream.
----exerpt from "Sons and Lovers"
this is my first time to read D.H.Lawrence,so i can't measure how much he exactly put his own personal and private life in this novel. well Sons and Lovers is always thought of as his autobiography, and i believe this is true because no one can write all those exquisite and uncatchable feelings down without exepericing it first. moreover, when reading this novel, i am constantly amazed by how detailed that lawrence has analysed his life. the fact is that ,in our life, most people are too timorous and weak to look life right in the eye.
in this fiction describes a very common and general family in England. the father is a collier, and the mother is a housewife spending most of her time picking up after her children and husband.everything seems so travial and niggling , and doesn't worth any more words to explain it futher. the mother has 4 children: Willian, Paul,Anne and Arthur.Willian dies in london, away from home,of pneumonia. the mother,Mrs Morel, feels heartreding and agnozing .then his second son,Paul, who is believed as the incarnation of Lawrence himself, gradually feels his debt to his mother.he has that strong and intense emotion to care her, love her forever. he would feel bitter to see his mother becoming older ,or weeping for the unfulfillment of life.
as you can see, while the family is a rather essential clue in this fiction,the budding love between young people(Paul and Miriam) is also of key part . the two, both deepy convinced each other as soulmate, are repeatedly pushing each other into anger and frienzy.Paul thinks that Miriam wants his whole soul but not himself while Miriam ,who is a maverick ,is yearning to love him fully and immaculately.later since Paul meets Cara(a married woman),he is gravated by her natural indignation toward man.to him, she is like a spark in the dibbling river of life. eventually, he comes back to Miriam.
the family and love interweave every now and then in this novel. you can see the conflits and intergrations. this is not one of the most imposing novel with attractive plot, however it takes a heart to see and understand it.
above is a very brief summary of this novel. now i'd like talk about what feelings this novel has triggered me to feel.
the girl, the woman, the mother. what infatuates me most in this novel is the life that Mrs. Morel has had. it is so typical for a woman in 19th and early 20th century, and miserable more or less. they get married to men,and all of a sudden they are changed from careless girls into worring women.they start to feel the regrets of their life for marrying out of whim and sudden satisfaction. the errands of every day life almost suffocate them. the children, the dinner, the cleaning ,the husband,adding up together,weaken her as the time ellapses.there is no way for her to jump out of the ties with familys. all she could do is to tolerate whatever life has thrown to her.Just like Mrs.Morel.she loaths her husband for most of time,but she still prepares for his dinner everytime he comes back from the pit and take care of his life.you may argue that Mrs.Morel is financially dependent to her husband.she can't leave.why couldn't woman have their own job after getting married at that time？it makes me wonder.
the charactor ,Mrs.Morel, reminds of a feminist author called Virginia Woolf. in her novel sees how a woman suffers,tolerates and vanishes from life. imagine, there is a woman who marries a man who she no longer loves. they have a son,but she can't care less about him while she is in overwhelming pain.where does the pain and bitterness come from？ one day, she is in the kitchen , baking a cake for her husband birthday,and she tells herself"i am going to leave,just walk away". so after puting the tasty cake on the table ,doffing her apron, leaving her son to another neighbor, she leaves. in a hotel she attempts to kill herself .but in the end, she is survived by herself when she decides she doesn't have a right to deprive the life of the infant in her belly.so she comes back home,everything seems peaceful and unchanged. but after she gives birth to the baby, she leaves, or in other word, abandons the whole family to Canada on her own.
it sounds a simple story to tell. but it is not ,at the bottom. i'll spare myself today to talk about the women's position in soceity back in 19 th century.the point i wanna conclude is that all the things that Mrs.Morel has put up with, all the love she has gave,are of great bitternees, but not in vain. it is so tragic,but of beauty in it.
in the end, this novel is one of Lawrence's materpieces and the thrils of it is gradually emerging out of sudden realization of the truth in our lives. even though the way that lawrence decipits the story is rather mild,i can feel the wave of turbulent and unfettered love in it too.
《Sons and Lovers》读后感(三)：Sons and Lovers
刚刚看完D.H Lawrence的《sons and lovers》, 这本半自传体的小说看到最后有点伤感。
因为一直认为是写恋母情结的书，所以一直很好奇。看完之后才理解在英美文学课上老师对Lawrence的评价----探讨两性之间的关系---男性和女性，其中有性别，当然也有“性”。看完之后才发现这不仅仅是一种情结。
因为婚姻不幸的关系，Mrs.Morel一直把自己所有的关怀和爱给予在自己的三个儿子身上，在大儿子的不幸去世后，发现小儿子和丈夫有着一样的轻狂后，她将所有的生命信念寄托在二儿子Paul的身上---这个人物就是以Lawrence为原型。
在Paul的生活中有三种异性关系。和Mrs.Morel, 母子之间的依赖，他们无所不谈, 她觉得他是她未能完成的夙愿，他惋惜她未能有丰满的生活，他们像恋人一样，在异乡闲逛，在一天的分隔后，热切盼望着分享一天中的美一个细节。在Morel家，Mr.Morel是个外人，真正的男人是Paul.
第二段关系是和一起长大的Miriam。柏拉图的爱情唤醒了他对生活的热爱，她欣赏并懂得他的画，羡慕他的法文让书本为他打开了另一个世界，她在他的身上看到了不凡。他属于她，所以他难以抗拒一遍遍的接近她，但是却恨她，因为她不愿意奉献自己的贞操。他感觉她不想要他，但却想要就此霸占他。这是一段没有性的精神恋爱。
第三段是和离了婚的Clara. 作者对Clara的描写从来就是就是从性出发的，她的嘴唇微翘，似乎对任何男人都很鄙夷，但却又似乎等着别人亲吻。她对他的吸引从来就是breast,bare arms, pants. 于是他在Clara身上找到了Miriam所不能给的性，于是他决断地离开了Miriam.但是Clara得到了Paul的身体，却也未能就此霸占他。
前者M，Mrs.Morel极其不喜欢，因为她感觉自己的儿子被霸占了，她代替了自己的精神地位; 但对于后者，虽然是个已经离过婚的女人，Mrs.Morel却不是很在意，因为她满足的是她不能和自己儿子分享的----性，而单纯的性爱不会取代自己在儿子心中的精神领袖地位。
母亲得了癌症，躺在自己的病床上迟迟不愿死去，最后, 她成了家里精神的折磨，Paul亲手在母亲的牛奶里下了药静守在病床边看着母亲死去。母亲的离去对他是重重的打击，让他重新省视自己的两性关系，他发现和Clara在一起，两人只是为了互相的满足，当夜晚离去白天来临Clara对他就是"of no existence" , 于是他亲手把她还给了她的前夫。很长时间，他都觉得自己已经和母亲一起死去了，但是他的躯壳还在，他每天游离在死亡和生存之间，备受煎熬。从来不愿意结婚的他，想要和Miriam结婚，重归于好来挽救自己的落魄，却发现自己最深沉的爱被母亲带走了。
Lawrence的作品，儿子与情人也好，查泰莱夫人的情人也好，之所以当时被列为“伤风败俗”之列，而现在又被广泛推崇，个人认为是他的作品具有跨时代性。男人就是男人，女人就是女人，时代在变，但是之间的关系本质却没有改变，当初他探讨性，至今这样的探讨任具有深刻意义。
男人需要某个女人给予信念，赋予生活意义; 但是他们的身体需要被满足。在不成熟的时期，性的满足显得更加的重要，就像书中所说"when he start love -making, the emotion was stronge enough to carry with it everything-reason, soul, blood--in a great weep, like th etrent carries bodily its back-swirls and interwinings noiselessly" 这时爱就是性，性就是爱。所以这时Paul觉得他更爱Clara. 但当他逐渐意识到这不是全部是，他开始神游，他不愿意再亲密，于是他在对命运低头的同时，放弃了性。
而女人，Miriam那么爱他，却不愿意奉献自己，因为她需要婚姻。终于当她愿意奉献时，将母亲的精神和伴侣的情爱结合起来时，Paul却拒绝了她。而至于Clara,从来没有想过要和自己的丈夫正式离婚，因为内心深处性爱带给女人的是感情上的满足，亲密，在这一点她觉得自己的前夫更爱自己。于是最后当她面临选择时，她突然觉得Paul的渺小，心智的不稳定，却肯定了落魄的前夫的manliness, 欣赏前夫落魄是因为对命运的低头。
最后Paul就像Lawrence一样，孤独地游荡在他乡。
《Sons and Lovers》读后感(四)：关于肉欲和圆满
小说非常成功的是前半段最初对莫太太婚姻状况的描述，非常写实。Paul和Miriam一段藕断丝连的感情实在拖了太久，我觉得比较无感，所以跳过很多，大概漏读了很多精妙的写景片段。
后半段于心有戚戚的是作者对一段健康的、灵肉合一的爱情关系应该达到的标准的描述。
'That's what once I must have, I think,' he continued - 'the real, real flame of feeling through another person...See, my mother looks as if she'd had everything that was necessary for her living and developing. There's not a tiny bit of a feeling of sterility about her."
'No,' said Miriam.
'And with my father, at first, I'm sure she had the real thing. She knows; she has been there. You can feel it about her, and about him, and about hundreds of people you meet everyday; and, once it has happened to you, you can go on with anything and ripen.'
'What has happened, exactly？' asked Miriam.
'It 's so hard to say, but the something big and intense that changes you when you really come together with someone else. It almost seems to fertilize your soul and make it that you can go on an mature.'
有意思的是，Paul认为即便是自己饱受家庭不和的折磨、多年来从心底里瞧不起丈夫的母亲，也因为受过这种“纯粹的生命之火的洗礼”。Paul敏锐地捕捉到了母亲经久不衰的生命力的源头，即肉体之爱带来的精神蜕变。这里似乎可以隐约看到弗洛伊德的影子。（整体上，叔本华之后对“肉体”的重新审视。我了解的也不多，就不多说。）从更俗世的角度来讲，纯粹的精神恋爱终究是不足的、残废的——人永远不可能仅仅满足于这一点，因为这违逆了人的天性。也许这就是一个无法解释，只能坦然接受的现实：人的精神和肉体并不是两个并驾齐驱、互不干涉的层面。并不是说肉体绝对主宰精神，但是很多时候肉欲被压制和忽视的状况下，精神也走投无路。无论哪一方面的匮乏，都无法让人得到圆满的升华。
所以当Paul无法得到这种圆满，就不得不离开。对Miriam一系列标准jerk的做法也不是无法理解。Clara在与Paul分离时，也有类似描述：
quot;her passion for the young man had filled her soul, given her a certain satisfaction, eased her of her self-mistrust, her doubt. It was almost as if she had gained herself, and stood now distinct and complete...Together they had received the baptism of life, each through the other, but now their missions were separate.'
当然前言中指出，劳伦斯对自己小说中女性角色的行为阐述很有些一面之词，Clara和Miriam的原型在真实生活中的所思所想显然不一定同小说中一样。但是从作者的思想表述上来看，Clara的这段话和上面Paul的对话所表达的意思是一脉相承的。Clara从一个三句话离不开性别压迫的女权主义者、从一个憎恶男性，几乎单调乏味的大龄女青年蜕变成了一个完整的人，具备了重新接受人和人那局促的肉体的能力。相比之下，Miriam却永远求全精神上的完美，对于世间万物都注入宗教意味；与Paul的感情中，她追寻的是自我牺牲和纯粹的灵性的契合。Paul认为自己不得不离开她，或许就是意识到这一种对精神高度的苛求无法让自己成为一个圆满的“人”吧。
《Sons and Lovers》读后感(五)：About love and marriage
When I first laid my eyes on this book, I thought it was about incest. But it turned out not after I read the introduction and that was what interested me----what the story exactly wants to tell？ Finishing reading the book I learned a lot about marriage.
aul is an excellent guy who is diligent and intelligent but the deep love and spiritual dependence prevent him to whole-heartedly love another women. In my opinion, people like Paul may live a arduous life because he is too much conscious his existence which results in his excessive care of people around, which is shown when he feels ashamed with some of his mother's action in the public area. And he think too much when he is with Marian which leads to separation of them. Perhaps, the separeation just shows us the importance of distance. They want too much to get the whole heart of each other which just like the author describ that "she wanted to draw me out of my body". And I think that the needed distance between people is not only physical but also, more significantly, spiritual. Well, I confess that I am dream of a relationship and I am a little bit afraid that I will screw it up. I do not know what to expect and what will happen.
About marriage, I even have not think about it yet but I according to the case around me it seems terrible. However smart the people are and however long time they spend together unmarried, they are seldom know what their mate really like before marrige, just like Mrs. Morel. As a result, they will have many unpleasant problem after they got married and most of them divorce soon after having a baby. I keep asking them why them will not know these flawness of each other before their marry but nobody can tell. Maybe there is a hindrance in the marriage and if you pass you will have the rest of the happiness but most of people nowaday tend to give up before them get through.
Well, I think I am better not to think too much and have too romantic expectation towards love and marriage but wait and let them come naturally.