好老公的10个秘密
10 Secrets To Becoming An Awesome Husband An
来源：goo.com
作者：Steve Spring
当美国上市公司MongoDB的首席执行官Max Sch宣布辞去高管职务，回家和家人朋友共度更多时光时，他写下这样一段话：“生活就是选择。现在，我选择用更多时间陪伴家人。”
When Max Sch announced that he was leaving his role as CEO of MongoDB to spend more time with his family an, he wrote that, “Life is about choices. Right now, to spend more time with my family.”
在Sch的辞职声明中，他记录下自己错过的事情：家里的一只爱犬遭遇车祸，儿子的急性手术，还有他今年的飞行里程近30万。
此外他还写道，人们对女性在家庭和事业间疲于奔命司空见惯，但是却认为男性应该专注事业，尽量从家庭中压缩时间去更多的奋斗和打拼。
In his farewell announcement, Sch wrote about the things he’s missed (a family puppy being hit by a car, emergency surgery for his son) and the miles he’s flown (he’s on track for 300,000 this year). He also wrote that while it is common for women to juggle their family with their career, men are expected to focus on their career an in time with their family if, and when, they can.
Max Sch和家人在一起
无论你是全球500强公司的首席执行官，还是工位上埋头苦干的小职员，你可能都在努力平衡事业和家庭的关系。
在最近一项花旗(Citi)和领英(L)做的调查中，当被问及职业生涯中最大的遗憾时，17%的男性表示：希望自己少花点时间在工作上，多花点时间和家人在一起，或者追求个人目标。
Whether you’re the CEO of a Fortune 500 company or you’re slaving away in a cubicle, you are probably struggling with balancing your career with your family. In a recent Citi/L survey, when men were aske their b career regrets, 17% said they wished they’ less time at work and more time with their families or on personal pursuits.
作为男人，养家糊口是天经地义的责任，男人就要挣钱养家。如果我们花太多时间在家里，承担丈夫或父亲的责任，就让我们担心自己是不是没有做好挣钱养家这种“该”做的工作。
专注事业打拼确实很有吸引力，特别是当你在争取加薪、升职，或需要稳定经济来源的时候。但是如果你大部分时间都在工作，你的家庭生活一定会受到影响。
As men, we’re wired to be the brea, to be the providers for our families. We fear that spending more time being a husband an will make us look to others like we’re not doing our main job. It can be tempting to focus on your career, especially if you’re trying to get a raise or manage an project—or simply keep your job in times of economic uncertainty. If you’re spending most of your time working, your family life is going to suffer.
你需要发展事业，也要考虑家庭与事业的平衡。我列出了以下10个方法，帮助你找到平衡点，成为一个更好的丈夫和父亲。
While you may need to focus on your career right now, there are a few secrets that you can use to better manage your career, and take care of your family w getting overwhelmed. I have created 10 strategies that you can use to help you manage your career an, and to help you become a better husband an.
秘密1. 目标明确
很多人在规划事业，规划新房子，规划假期，但是我们从来没有花时间认真规划过自己的生活。所以才有那么多健康问题、婚姻失败和家庭破裂的例子。真的不应该这样。
生活需要规划，花点时间弄清楚你的人生目标，问问自己你的生活要什么样，从现在开始有目的地生活。
I KNOW WHERE I AM HEADED
Most of us plan our careers, our new homes, and even our vacations, but we never take the time to plan our life. As a result we often end up with poor health, faile, an families. It doesn’t have to be this way. Begin to live your life on purpose by taking the time to get clear about where you are going in life.
秘密2. 为生活排序
一旦你弄清了人生的方向，生活中的优先级就会变得清晰起来。将事情化繁为简，你就能把注意力集中在那些对你真正重要的事情上。
I KNOW MY PR
Once you are clear about where you are headed in life, your pr become clear. By keeping things simple you will be able to focus on the few things that really matter to you.
秘密3. 重要事先行
所谓“大石头”，指你最重要的问题。如果你想要成功，你就必须要专心解决这个问题。
时间管理专家会告诉你，第一件事就是确定你的“大石头”是什么，先集中精力处理“大石头”，剩下的事情自然会顺理成章。
THE “BIG ROCKS”
Your “big rocks” are your most tasks—the one that will need to focus on if you are going to succeed. Time management pros will tell you that your big rocks first is a key to getting things done. Focus on getting your “big rocks” taken care of first, and the rest will fall into place.
秘密4. 敞开心扉
大多数男人不会和别人说他们想要什么，或者在做什么，因此他们没有多元的视角去看待一件事。但是这样做，会错失很多宝贵的经验。花点时间和有经验的人聊一聊，你将会非常有收获。
I SEEK THE ADVICE OF OTHER MEN
Most men don’t tell anyone what they want or what they are struggling with so they don’t get an outside perspective. When we do this, we miss out on the experience of others. Take the time to listen an from other men who have been where you are and have exper what you are exper.
秘密5. 不以工作论英雄
首先，你是丈夫；然后，你是父亲。工作是帮你付账单的。不要用工作的得失，来评价自己的成败。
I KNOW THAT MY JOB IS NOT MY
You are a husban, and a father second. Your job is what you do to pay the bills. Don’t make the m of tying your self-esteem to the success or failure of your job.
秘密6. 说“不”要果断
一旦你对生活中最重要的事情说了“是”，就可以对不那么重要的事情说“不”。你将清楚地管理生活中的优先级，而不是被它们牵着走。对好东西说“不”，你才能对最好的东西说“是”。
I KNOW WHEN TO SAY “NO”
Once you have said “yes” to your pr in life, you are in a great position to say “no” to the things that matter less. You will have the clarity to manage your pr rather than to be managed by them. Learn to say “no” to the good, so that you can say “yes” to the best.
秘密7. 健康是王道
关于健康，你需要把自己放在优先级。因为只有你照顾好自己，才能去照顾别人。所以在健康这一点上，你自己的位置要优先于家人和朋友。一旦健康出了问题，对家人或雇主来说，你都会失去很多意义。
I DON’T TAKE MY HEALTH FOR GRANTED
This is one area where you need to put yourself first. This means before your family, friends, an, because you can’t take care of anyone else unless you take care of yourself. If you don’t look after your own health an sick, you are not much use to your family or your employer.
秘密8. 强大“后援团”
很少有人能独自成就伟大的事业。体育明星有队友、教练和啦啦队。你也应该有这样支持你的人。拥有来自他人的帮助、鼓励和亲密关系是件很棒的事，支持你的人们会希望你成为最好的自己。一个强大的支持网络，会让的世界焕然一新。
I HAVE A SUPPORT NETWORK
Very few people (if any) achieve anything great alone. Sports stars have teammates, coaches, an. You should too. Be w to ask the people in your life to support you. It’s great to have the help, the encouragement and the fellowship of others who want you to be the best person that you can be. It makes all the in the world.
秘密9. 一次只做一件事
曾经很多人认为同时处理多项工作，是提高生产力的好方法。毕竟同时处理多个任务，意味着你能一次完成许多事情。然而，一心多用并不节省时间成本。
研究表明：一心多用不仅会降低工作效率，还有损身体健康。因此工作时就专心工作。回家后就专注享受家庭乐趣。
ON ONE THING AT A TIME
In the past, most people believed that mult was a good way to pro. After all, if you’re working on several tasks at once, you’re bound to accomplish more, right? Unfortunately, mult does not save you time. Not only has research shown that mult reduces your pro, it has also be shown to be harmful to your health. Focus on your career when you are at work, and your family when you are at home.
秘密10. 你不再只是“你”
在拥有家庭之后，每个家庭成员就需要从家庭的角度去思考问题。
如果你把你的工作，看成是为家庭目标而努力的一部分的时候，就不会再去计较所谓自己的“地位”和“优势”，而当你停止这些无谓的担忧，一切也会步入正轨。
重要的是，你要用行动表明家庭在你生活的重要位置。
“WE,” NOT “ME
It sounds so obvious but having a family-or life requires everyone th in a family-or way. Once you begin to see your work as something that takes place within the larger context of the your family, you are able to quit worrying about whether you have your pr right, an will begin to fall into place. The thing is to show that your family is thing in your life by your actions.
以上就是我想分享给大家的10个秘诀。这些方法曾经帮助过我，相信它们也能很好地帮助到你。
请记住，成为一个好丈夫和好父亲，并不是一蹴而就的事，它需要一个持续的过程，其间会伴随着各种变化，来自家庭的、兴趣的和职业的。
想一想，今天你打算和家人一起做些什么呢？一起向“好丈夫、好父亲”的方向加油吧！
There you have it. These are my 10 secrets to becoming a better husband an. They have helped me, and I am sure that they will help you. Pick one to today and you will be on your way to becoming a better husband an. Just remember that becoming a better husband an isn’t a one-shot deal. It is a cont process as your family, , an change.
What is one thing that you can do to spend more time with your family today?
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